KNOW YOUR SELF WORTH
Knowing your self-worth
What do you believe you deserve? I know that’s a pretty loaded question, isn’t it? If I were to ask women this, the majority of the responses would be disheartening, and reveal a startling truth. Women (even very successful, accomplished women) doubt their deservingness.
Deservingness is not to be confused with entitlement. Entitlement is about believing you have a right to something. Deservingness is about how much you believe you’re worth.
When you doubt your deservingness, what you’re really uncertain about is whether or not you measure up. Are you good enough? You’ve made some pretty big mistakes. Do those bad mistakes make you a bad person? Are you a good enough person to deserve good things?
Many women carry around a secret shame that impacts their feelings of self-worth and deservingness. Our stories are our own and differ in some ways, but our core experiences are very much the same. At some point in your life, someone told you there was something wrong with you.
It gets disempowering through repetition. When you hear something over and over you start to believe it. If even one person in your life tells you over and over again that there’s something wrong with you, well, you can start to believe them. Being rejected or criticized hurts.
In life, you always create the results you believe you deserve. If you don’t believe you deserve good things, you won’t let yourself have them. You’ll sabotage, procrastinate, and excuse the good right out of your life if you don’t believe you deserve it.
It’s time to start believing in you again.
Here are a few suggestion:
Take care of yourself. Of course you have to take care of yourself. The problem with this truth, unfortunately, is that there are people who will try to convince you that prioritizing your needs means you’re a selfish person.
Self-care is not selfish. Self-neglect is selfish.
Self-neglect tells you that you don’t matter. It tells you to ignor your wants and needs. When you neglect yourself, eventually you turn into a repressed, angry, self-doubting zombie (or banshee depending on your anger level). Nothing about self-neglect is healthy.
You need to connect with your SELF. The most fundamental way to begin that process is to take care of your physical body.
*You need adequate sleep. Every night.
*You need proper daily hydration. Water is energy.
*You need to eat food that nourishes. Not just food that fills your stomach. (I’m not talking about dieting here. I’m talking about eating to nourish your body.)
*You need some way to relieve stress. (Think working out, meditation, journaling, gardening, prayer, sitting in nature, cooking, essential oils or hot scented bathing.)
*You need to be kind to yourself. Give yourself a pep-talk. Make a list of things you like about yourself (or things your friends and family like about you). Write these things on post-it notes and stick them up around your house, office or car. When you come across them, read them outloud. Repeat them 3 times, loudly and like you mean it. I know this sounds a little cheesy but eventually you start believing it yourself.
Know your self worth
Knowing your self-worth
What do you believe you deserve? I know that’s a pretty loaded question, isn’t it? If I were to ask women this, the majority of the responses would be disheartening, and reveal a startling truth. Women (even very successful, accomplished women) doubt their deservingness.
Deservingness is not to be confused with entitlement. Entitlement is about believing you have a right to something. Deservingness is about how much you believe you’re worth.
When you doubt your deservingness, what you’re really uncertain about is whether or not you measure up. Are you good enough? You’ve made some pretty big mistakes. Do those bad mistakes make you a bad person? Are you a good enough person to deserve good things?
Many women carry around a secret shame that impacts their feelings of self-worth and deservingness. Our stories are our own and differ in some ways, but our core experiences are very much the same. At some point in your life, someone told you there was something wrong with you.
It gets disempowering through repetition. When you hear something over and over you start to believe it. If even one person in your life tells you over and over again that there’s something wrong with you, well, you can start to believe them. Being rejected or criticized hurts.
In life, you always create the results you believe you deserve. If you don’t believe you deserve good things, you won’t let yourself have them. You’ll sabotage, procrastinate, and excuse the good right out of your life if you don’t believe you deserve it.
It’s time to start believing in you again.
Here are a few suggestion:
Take care of yourself. Of course you have to take care of yourself. The problem with this truth, unfortunately, is that there are people who will try to convince you that prioritizing your needs means you’re a selfish person.
Self-care is not selfish. Self-neglect is selfish.
Self-neglect tells you that you don’t matter. It tells you to ignor your wants and needs. When you neglect yourself, eventually you turn into a repressed, angry, self-doubting zombie (or banshee depending on your anger level). Nothing about self-neglect is healthy.
You need to connect with your SELF. The most fundamental way to begin that process is to take care of your physical body.
*You need adequate sleep. Every night.
*You need proper daily hydration. Water is energy.
*You need to eat food that nourishes. Not just food that fills your stomach. (I’m not talking about dieting here. I’m talking about eating to nourish your body.)
*You need some way to relieve stress. (Think working out, meditation, journaling, gardening, prayer, sitting in nature, cooking, essential oils or hot scented bathing.)
*You need to be kind to yourself. Give yourself a pep-talk. Make a list of things you like about yourself (or things your friends and family like about you). Write these things on post-it notes and stick them up around your house, office or car. When you come across them, read them out loud. Repeat them 3 times, loudly and like you mean it. I know this sounds a little cheesy but eventually you start believing it yourself.